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| So you're gonna meet this special person! |
Wow, exciting eh, so now what? You want to meet this person who has been titillating your email. They've sent you their picture and maybe you've even talked on the phone, now what?
Hopefully the photo you've sent is just an ordinary, natural type photo and not one from the finest studio in town. Your photo should never look like it was taken right after ten attendants worked on you for weeks to get you looking your best. If you think sending this kind of photo is the way to go, your setting yourself up for rejection from the get go. The same is true if you dress down if you send a photo of you over your morning coffee cup in your underwear, you can expect disappointment also real fast too!
The best approach is have a friend take some candid shots of you, maybe outside in the park or in your home standing by your computer perhaps. The reason for this is you can intimidate a person so easily based on how you present yourself. Do you want to be seen as a very wealthy drama Queen or King or would you like the person to know you love your cat or maybe your Bmx bike, or even your Harley? Think about your lifestyle maybe ask your friends how would you describe me to someone these are good indications of what kind of photo to send.
Ok, you've done the photo, whew, now it’s the meet!
I feel for a first time meeting, the best approach is coffee, in a very public place such as Starbucks or Blenz. In this kind of scenario, there are lots of people about so you’re safe. Also you are only together for a short time so if you feel man this person suck, well, because its just coffee your not stuck with them for very long.
If you live in a town, where you have no coffee place, say maybe Timbuktu well then meet at the library. Always try to make it public, never ever in your home or theirs and also, make sure a friend knows where you are going and how long you’re going to be.
I know, it may seem silly perhaps even embarrassing to tell a friend, oh I'm meeting a person from the internet but, chances are your friend also has friends on the internet.
If you're nervous what to talk about, the best bet is to ask the person to tell you about themselves, people usually love to let people know about themselves and lets face it love starts with attraction.
Have fun, remember you and this person are coming from the same place, both from kiss to kiss, both searching, both maybe a little vulnerable or even a lot vulnerable. Just treat them how you wish to be treated.
As always with respect, kindness and attention!
The Dating Diva!
Branwen
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So, you've met someone hurray, you have had a couple of dates, he or she turns you on in some areas but not in others. Should you stay with this person, and see what happens or cut your losses now?
Just like with everything else in life, whether it’s a new job new car or even new place to live, it takes time to adjust to the situation. Most people aren’t really comfortable enough with someone new to open up instantly, just like learning a new job you have to learn about this new fellow and the same goes for him or her.
Keep an open mind ask questions and be open enough to answer theirs, you don't have to instantly tell all your personal secrets, but if you've been married 8 times, and served a long stretch in prison, well hey, you might just want to share that.
Just try to think about the relationship in the aspect of what you would like to know about him or her within reason and ask away.
Treating someone how you wish to be treated is never a mistake in any circumstance the most important factor is always respect yourself and the other person.
Approach each date with a positive attitude and if something puzzles you ask him or her. Always trust your inner voice. If you get a feeling, hey this doesn’t feel right, then it probably isn’t right.
Keep an open mind and remember to have fun!
The Dating Diva!
Branwen
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